We’ve all encountered nay-sayers. People who criticize, doubt you, and put you down walk among ordinary people, and you can’t make them go away. However, you can take action to protect your courage, motivation, and willpower to combat their negativity. In this article, Keith Orie, a certified professional life coach in Temple, TX, describes how to maintain your valuable peace of mind and enthusiasm against cynics who threaten to take it away.
Avoid Indulging Their Reality
Toxic people and nay-sayers tend to see themselves as the victim in every situation. Regardless of your actions or their own, they’re likely to spin the situation to shift the blame to someone else or construe the story in a way that favors their personal agenda. It’s an endless cycle.
When nay-sayers are using this tactic, don’t play along. You might feel prompted to nod and smile to save face, but this actually encourages these people to perpetuate their behavior. Instead, you should try to respectfully disagree. While this might upset the person, it will discourage them from involving you in the future. Nay-sayers can’t stand people who disagree, and will likely leave you alone.
Put Yourself First
At the end of the day, you know what is best for you. Criticism and put-downs are nay-sayers only strategy to feel valuable. They’re trying to cut you down to their level; don’t let them do it.
Healthy relationships involve give and take. Your wants and needs can only be met by those willing to recognize your boundaries and belief systems. When you give your energy to nay-sayers, you’re not going to get anything in return. This depletes your valuable emotional energy and makes you less equipped to recognize and take action towards meeting your own needs.
Offer Compassion, Not Assistance
Toxic people can change their behavior. But it must come from within. Unfortunately, as much as you’d like to, you can’t fix a nay-sayer. They have to be willing to put in the work towards a more successful and peaceful life.
Nay-sayers come in all forms. Maybe your parents, family members, or other important figures in your life are toxic and you don’t want to completely cut them out. In this case, it’s okay to offer the compassion and kindness that they are incapable of offering you. Suggest that they get help elsewhere. Offering assistance saps your emotional resources, offering compassion doesn’t. And at the end of the day, if they are incapable of even receiving your kindness, you can always just walk away.
Nay-sayers are out to steal your peace of mind because they can’t find it within themselves. By letting these toxic people influence your life, your emotional energy and resources are drained, leaving you less equipped to maintain peace in your own life. By avoiding indulgence in their skewed reality, putting yourself first, and offering compassion rather than assistance, you can preserve your peace of mind and surround yourself with individuals that lift you up rather than drain you.
About Keith Orie
Keith Orie is a certified professional life coach in Temple, Texas, and an owner of Advanced Medical Sales, LLC. He started the company late in college to help medical professionals effectively treat patients through non-invasive pain relief procedures. Mr. Orie understands the value of customer support and has built a team of resourceful professionals to make sure all client queries are responsibly and promptly addressed. The extensive range of medical equipment Mr. Orie distributes includes portable ultrasound machines, electrical stimulation devices, neck traction devices, and more.